You may have heard people say things like, "I am establishing boundaries" or "they violated my boundaries" but what exactly are boundaries?


Boundaries are basically limits that you set with other people. Another way of thinking about boundaries are as rules or expectations regarding how you will/will not be treated or what you will/will not tolerate.


Boundaries help protect us from being taken advantage of or being mistreated and help us take care of our mental and emotional wellbeing.


Setting boundaries with other people is an important part of self-care. For example, imagine you have a friend who is rather demanding of your time and always expects you to be available to talk. In this case, you might use assertiveness skills to let your friend know that you are spending time with your family and can call them tomorrow. Or suppose that you are asked to do a favor when you are already feeling overwhelmed; here, a boundary might simply be saying no.


Poor boundaries often lead to feelings of anger and resentment or things like stress and burnout; so if you are feeling any of these things, it is worth asking, what boundaries do I need to establish to protect my mental and emotional wellbeing?


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